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Do you want to live a fuller, richer life? If so, join me around the fire of sexuality; masculinity and femininity; relationships; and a lot more!

WARNING: You may, no you will, experience some discomfort along your journey. That's what fire does: it burns and can scar. However, fire can bring life, as well! It's my hope that you will find life, challenge, and guts as you move closer to Keeping Your Edges Hot!

What is Your Inner Six Year Old Like?

                                
                               My Six Year Old
 
Now, not 5 any more, but 6!
I could run down to my best friend’s house all by myself.

The long three blocks were no match for the Captain America wings attached to my feet. My aerodynamic three and a half foot body knifed the wind with Flash-like speed. It was if I was IV-ed to jumping, laughing, swinging in careless uninhibited omnipotent wildness.

Driveways, curbs and ditches dared, no taunted, me to pop Evel Knievel-like wheelies from my leopard-covered banana seat.

Broken bones, scraped knees, elbow cuts and butt strawberries tattooed the invitation for tomorrow’s adventure. Tomorrow, I said, will be faster or higher or deeper.

Nothing would stop or slow the Superman, Batman, Green Lantern, Hellboy, Spiderman, Hulk and Thor energy in me. In fact, if you were to cut me, you wouldn’t see blood. You’d see pure white light rays of power beaming out of every slit and pore of my body. If I opened my mouth, I could blow spears of fire at any body I chose.

Curiosity, exploration, adventure, Twinkies and dirt, were all a way of life for me. Sleep was a distant cousin to climbing a little higher, finding tadpoles in the pond, throwing a baseball or wrestling with my brother. 

Although I was naive, I didn’t know it. Although puny, I felt indestructible. Part lonely, and part free. Two balls: one fragile and one brass. Man, was I glad to be six years old!

The Descent

    The rains did not keep us down. It helped us descend.
    In the middle of October 2011 over 100 men converged in the highlands of West Virginia… searching for something. They were not searching for gold, but something golden. They were not searching for a wise man, but for wisdom. And they were not searching new technological ideas, but to be skillful.
    These men came from all walks of life: PhD’s to GED’s, black, white, European, American, Christian, non-Christian, single, married. They came searching for a deeper, honest place to connect with their own soul, and the souls of other men. 
    The Men’s Rites of Passage (MROP) was founded by Richard Rohr, OMF, fifteen years ago.  It meets men at several different junctures along their spiritual journeys. For most, it’s an oasis and desert at the same time. This MROP was no different.
    The first three of the five days, this MROP found the ground saturated from continuous rainfall. Unlike those who were able to be in cabins, many of the men stayed in tents throughout. For all, however, shoes were caked in mud, squishy sounding and cold. It wasn’t the most “pleasant” of living conditions!
 

Guts or Mush? Putting Up with Us, Men!

     I often wonder how women put up with us men! Yeah, I also wonder how we men put up with women sometimes! But really, women need a lot of patience when it comes to us.
     For example, I wonder if women think... Why do most men get so wrapped up in football, and not wrapped up in me? Why do men scratch their balls in public? Why is work soooo important to men? Why do so many men say to other men, "Hey, asshole," when they really mean, "Hi brother, I missed you"? And why don't men ask for directions?! Good questions...
     It must be hard for women to somehow transform into some kind of man-code-linear-jock-strapping-I-don't-give-a-damn-thinking machine simply to understand her man. She must have to "give up" a lot to get close to him, or simply to get along with him. I mean, face it! Women have legitimate questions sometimes.
     Or do they? They certainly have tough ones (aka: questions we guys can't stand to hear) like: Do you love me? What are you thinking? Do I look fat? How am I important to you? Do you have guts or mush for me? Awwlll, Maaannn! At this point you might be thinking (not saying!), WHY DOES SHE ASK ME THOSE THINGS?! SHE KNOWS THE ANSWER! Or does she?
     More to come. In the meantime, give me your thoughts and comments.

Kevin

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